Relationship coaching – work together, get closer

You’re sitting at your computer, searching the internet for answers to your emotionally distant relationship . . .

And you don’t know what to do.  Your relationship can’t keep going like this.  Something has to change.  Maybe relationship coaching is right for you or maybe it isn’t.  The only thing you’re sure of is something has to change.  Something needs to be decided because  .  .  .

Your relationship used to be so close and you felt really important to your partner. You knew that just by the way your partner looked at you, and touched you.  But it has been a long time since you’ve been looked at that way, and touched that way.

Maybe you and your partner both need each other, but have become lost, and emotionally separated from each other.  You are in a place that neither of you want to be.  You can see your partner, but every step you take forward seems to take you in the opposite direction.  You are trying to find the way and it’s so frustrating when you can’t get closer.

Some people even feel caged in their relationship, surrounded by an invisible electric fence, afraid to make a move. Being criticized and judged hurts, and being ignored hurts even more.  Some people have been shocked over and over and just don’t want to go near that fence again.  Even if there is a way through, they think maybe it’s not worth it.   They have become focused on the pain.

No one wants to be shocked and hurt over and over again. We want a better way, without shocks and pain, though working is okay.  We are used to working for things because  magic doesn’t happen all by itself.  But there is a secret that most people don’t know.  They forget about the thing that is hidden and hard to see.  But, it is a powerful thing you can realize  .  .  .

Your partner needs love and closeness too. Everyone does, though sometimes we forget that.  So, when you learn to help your partner with that–to get love and to feel close, the secret comes out.  So many things your partner does hides this secret.   It’s as if you see and respond to the magic trick, the illusions or anger or negativity or withdrawal and distance.  But no one really wants those things.  When we stop reacting to those things and learn to get to the secret underneath, then we get close.

Relationship coaches know many fascinating things like this .  .  . How to stop reacting to your partner’s bag of tricks; how to motivate the part of your partner that feels and needs you.  How to deactivate the invisible fence that keeps the two of you apart.  How to bring back the look in your partner’s eyes, the touch you want to feel.

You may or may not decide to work with a relationship coach. People are free to make all their decisions in life and to decide what they will have and what is worth working on for them. Being loved and appreciated and having a close relationship are important, but they are not everything. Only you know how important these things are to you.  Now, at this time in your life.

Many people have already chosen to work with a relationship coach. They found that doing something was so much more satisfying than waiting for something to happen.  And they found that life could be the way they wanted to make it because they were willing to work on it.  Not everyone chooses to have a relationship coach, though.  And many have been waiting for a long time.  Many relationships have ended while people were waiting. Many people have lived their lives without getting what they want.

You may or may not be the kind of person who wants to work with a relationship coach. Only you can know something like that.  Someone once told me that the only way she could have peace was knowing that she was doing the right thing, even if it wasn’t an easy thing.  So you, too, can decide what is right for you and what is worth working on.

A person is able to work less hard and have more when they combine their efforts with another. Even a big thing, can become a small thing when you have the help of your own relationship coach.  You don’t have to decide anything now, but if you want to, I invite see what you could do and all that you could have with a  trial relationship coaching package.  Because it’s easy to get started with relationship coaching by yourself.  Your partner can even join you when he or she is ready.  Because, after all, you both need to love more and hurt less.

When I move closer to you, it brings you closer to me.  When I stop letting you push me away, you start letting me in.  So, I will no longer wait in the dark.  Hope is a flame which becomes brighter as I walk to it.  I will dare to dream the dream we both feared losing.  Forever you will be my love and I your lover.