Shifting from blame to action to overcome neediness (examples from relationship coaching). To improve any situation, including neediness, we must see what we can do to improve it (even when someone else is causing the problem). We must go beyond gut reactions to something that can bring about change. Here is an example identification of a…
Building your marriage by improving the way you say things Have you programmed your spouse to expect a negative message from you? How long does it take before your spouse has an emotional reaction to what you are saying? If you said no time at all, you are correct. Our spouses emotionally respond to…
No one likes problems, but handled correctly, they create an opportunity for a closer marriage Breaking the silence You love your spouse, but your relationship has serious problems. How can you talk to your spouse about it without making things worse? Some people are so afraid of upsetting their spouse that they suffer for…
If sharing your thinking with your spouse just gets a defensive reaction or distance, try this approach. Why saying, “I disagree” is not a good way to disagree. “I disagree,” is not a good way to respond to anyone. The message may be accurate, but the packaging is poor. It closes down communication…