Relationship Coach Blog

If you combine skills with action, what do you get?  You get the best chance at success that you will ever have.  It took me more than ten years to learn to change the oil on my car.  Was it because no one showed me how?  That’s what I thought at first.  But, what I discovered was that I didn’t learn because I didn’t ask.  When I finally asked, I learned in about 15 minutes.  I got messy, but it felt good!  Waiting for years for someone to show me was my losing strategy.  Asking someone to teach me was my winning strategy.  Since then, I have learned many useful things from many knowledgeable people.

It may be a product of our educational system to believe that people will teach us what we need to know when we need to know it.  I don’t know about your case, but I was taught many things in school that I never needed to know and have long forgotten.  The things that could have helped me most I learned by accident or have yet to learn.

The best way to get unstuck is to be helped by someone who already knows how and has done it before.  Hand over hand, one step at a time and you can learn to rebuild a car engine, or rebuild a relationship, or even to have a great relationship.  You can be guided to the correct tools and shown how to use them.  This is the model behind the parent, the mentor, and the coach.  They walk you through the process rather than just telling you about it.  Learning is active.  Doing is active.  Only by learning and doing will we have action that will get us unstuck, moving forward, and achieving our goals.

Believe you can.  Ask someone who knows to help you to do it.