Go slow when working on intimacy
Because intimacy involves vulnerability, there is no way to increase intimacy without also being afraid at the same time. Intimacy involves a step of faith.
It is not necessary to have a “leap” of faith, however. Relationships should develop over time with small steps of faith. That way, we risk a little but will not be devastated if our love is not returned or if we are used or mistreated.
Developing a relationship takes time. Trust is built slowly over time, and so is intimacy. This is also true when partners are rebuilding intimacy after it has been lost. Small steps and small risks allow one to try again another day if something should go wrong.
If you want something to last a lifetime, don’t try to build it in one day.
Your relationship coach will always encourage you to take small steps. This is not because you are incapable of more, but because you will have more success that way.
Posted: November 26th, 2008 under Improving Relationships, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Coaching, Relationship Issues.
Tags: faith, intimacy, vulnerability