Make a memory scrapbook for your relationship
Keeping a diary is something that most people attempt at least once in their lives. What they usually discover is that their life is routine for the most part. Very few diaries would ever be publishable, no matter how well written, because not many people care what time you went to bed or that you ran out of cereal on a particular day in 1983.
Photos and videos are good for capturing many of the big moments of our lives that lend themselves to being seen. A wedding is very visual, as is your child’s first public performance. But what about things that you can’t take a picture of like how it felt to kiss for the first time, or to be told “I love you,” by someone you really loved?
Get yourself a nicely covered blank book that you can use for your memories and other important recordings. Title one page something like “Good memories with ***,” where *** would be your spouse’s name. Whenever you have an especially good time with your partner, add it to you list of memories. Include as much or as little detail as you like.
Such a good memory list can help to carry us through the bad times when we are not getting along well with our partner; they can be something we savor a little at a time when we have to be separated from our partner; they can be a comfort to us if our spouse should pass away before us. Maybe you can think of some other uses for such good memories.
If you have such a good memory scrapbook, share it with your relationship coach and come up with ways to create more of these experiences. They can be like seeds to a more wonderful life.
Posted: November 17th, 2008 under Improving Relationships, Relationship Coaching, Relationship Skills.
Tags: emotions, memories, scrapbook, skills