Relationship Coach Blog

I believe you have the power to make important decisions in your life.  You have, after all, made important decisions in the past.

You decided about work or college.  You made a decision when you started your first romance.  You made a decision when your first romance ended.  Even when someone else fires us or leaves us, we decide whether to let go and move on or to hang on.

What would you say influences your decisions the most?  It is logic?  It is the advice of others?  Is it baseless, wishful thinking?  It is hope based on some evidence that you could succeed?

Do you know that you have the power to decide how you will decide?  You can, for example, decide if emotions are going to guide your actions.  You can decide that the advice of experts will guide you.  Or, you can let reason and logic guide you.

If you will take the advice of this expert, I suggest that you let experience guide you.  Experience is something that you can trust based on firsthand evidence.  Reason and emotion, though, will often get you to repeat unsuccessful experiences over and over again.

Reason says, “This method should work, because it makes sense,” even if never works (like trying to win the affections of a woman by being her friend).  Emotions say, “I want to do it this way,” because it feels good, right, or justified, even if the actions are revenge, loving someone who is only using you, or  nagging your spouse.

Your  relationship coach will help you to learn from your experiences what does not work, and to replace that with methods that will result in you having a having a happier life with more romance and intimacy.  You can decide what is really best for you.