Relationship Coach Blog

There is a rule of thumb about when it is time to buy another car.  The rule is, “When it costs more to fix your car than it does to buy another car, then it is time to buy another car.”  If everyone followed that rule, most people would drive their cars for over 300,000 miles and the entire auto industry would collapse.

While that rule of thumb makes the most economic sense for the car owner, it does not address the emotional issues.  A new car is exciting; an old car is not.  This is part of the “buy your way to happiness” philosophy that many have bought into.  Unfortunately, many have bought into the same philosophy for relationships.

There is a better rule that you can apply to both cars and relationships, though.  The more you love your car, the better you will care for it, and the more you will be willing to do to keep it running  It will run well, and you will get more enjoyment from it.  You come to the point where you would not trade it for anything.  Some people take such good care of their cars that they become classic cars.  What was merely “old” becomes the envy of others.

“My man’s old, but he’s my man and I love him.  I would not trade him for the world.”  This is what I want my wife to someday say of me. We are partners and that means we will do whatever we need to do to take care of each other.  There is always that time between “new” and “classic” where you have to put in the most work.  But, it is worth it.

Not everyone can have a classic car or classic spouse.  Only those who know how to properly care for their relationship can preserve it.  Your relationship coach will help you to have the skills you need to do just that.