Relationship Coach Blog

If you are single, you may want to find someone who is a perfect match for you.  Someone you can share tender moments and happy memories with for the rest of your life.  Do you know that your perfect match is also searching or waiting for you?

Because he or she matches you, you also match him or her.  I consider a perfect match to be a “soul mate.”  People can either make their current partner into their soul mate, find their soul mate, or help their soul mate to find them.

Believing in a soul mate is not the same as believing in destiny. Those who believe in destiny say it doesn’t matter what you do, as your future is already determined.  I believe that our thoughts, actions, and behaviors can help us to get more or less of what we want and that each day of our lives is filled with choices.

To help your soul mate to find you, you need to think about visibility.  Things and people are easiest to find when they are visible.  Hanging out in your room watching DVDs is like hiding from your potential soul mate.

If you were advising someone who was hoping to find someone just like you, what would you tell them is the best way to find such a person?  Would it be at a sports game, a museum, a grocery store?  Wherever you think would be the best place for him or her to find you is where you need to be open to meeting such a person.

If you think your soul mate could best find you at a sports game, then when you go to the sports game, use good social skills with those around you.  Make it easy for people to get to know you there.  Being unapproachable would be the same as hiding from that special someone.

Traditionally, men tend to be hunters while women tend to be bait.  Whichever way you choose to be, do it well.  Use the skills that will bring results.  To learn skills that give you the advantage, work with a relationship coach.