Relationship Coach Blog

If you think that these blog posts contain the answer to your relationship problems, then you are mistaken. You will not find such answers here or anywhere else on the internet.  Because relationships vary among people, have multiple variables, and continue indefinitely, there are no solutions that lead either to fixing your problems or ensuring that you have a great relationship.

Did you ever wonder why people go to counseling for months? Or work with a relationship coach for months?  Do you think it is because they are getting so many solutions that it just takes a great deal of time to hear them all?  And then once a person has collected all of their solutions they can just apply them and be all set?

Solutions only work for finite things. Two plus two equals four.  “Four” is the solution.  Once you have it, there is nothing left to do.  The solution to “two plus two” is the same for everyone, everywhere.  The solution is widely available.  This you can look up on the internet.  Once you have the solution, you can move on to something else like “three plus two”.

But, when you start asking “how” kinds of questions, then you need a process and not a solution. “How do I bake a loaf of bread?” does not yield any simple answer.  It depends on what kind of bread you want, what kind of equipment you have, your level of bread making skills, and the quality of your ingredients just to mention a few things.  Even knowing all of this, though, it takes time and practice to become good at baking bread.  If you want to be really good at it, you will need to train with a baker.  How much more complicated do you think a relationship is?

Some people ask, “How do I get my spouse or boyfriend to want to reconcile with me?” That is a great question, but you are not going to be able to find a “solution”.  This question is a “how” question and calls for a process.  Details about your particular situation have to be taken into account, skills must be transmitted to you, and you have to put these skills into use for an extended period of time.

So, you will not find any “solutions” for fixing your relationship or having a great relationship on the internet. While you are searching for solutions, your relationships will continue to falter.  You don’t need to take my word for it.  Just keep a watch on what happens to your relationships while you search for the solutions.  People who live in the real world learn to look at the results of their actions.

If you want to really make your relationships better, you will need to learn a better method for dealing with them.  You can go to counseling or get relationship coaching.  It just depends on whether you want to be problem focused (counseling) or growth focused (coaching).