Taking risks may be safer than doing nothing
Things either happen by accident or by intention. But, in both cases, we have influence. For example, you are unlikely to have a skiing accident if you don’t go skiing. You therefore have a great deal of control over whether you have a skiing accident.
Though we have the power to avoid most situations where something could go wrong, many accidents are actually things going right. Can you be certain that by staying home rather than going skiing, you won’t have any accidents? Most accidents occur at home, after all.
Nervous Nellies go through life trying to avoid one mishap or another. Talking to strangers is dangerous. Having adventures is dangerous. Revealing something personal about yourself is dangerous.
One key to getting more out of your life and relationships is knowing what you can recover from. You can recover from a broken leg, though it won’t be pleasant. Skiing is a reasonable risk because you can have a lot of fun, develop yourself, and your relationships. Staying home risks more than skiing does.
Talking to strangers risks rejection, but rejection from a stranger doesn’t take so long to recover from. On the other hand, it is very difficult to recover from loneliness (it doesn’t just go away by itself). Revealing something about yourself to a partner also risks hurt and rejection. Not revealing your true self to your partner risks your never feeling accepted.
Be sure you understand what you are risking when you decide not to do something. Staying safe may be more dangerous than you think.
Your relationship coach can help you to take reasonable risks to deepen intimacy and have the kind of relationship that you want to have.
Posted: December 3rd, 2008 under Help for Singles, Relationship Coaching, Relationship Issues.
Tags: rejection, risks