Relationship Coach Blog

When you were going to school or growing up, did you learn social skills?  I remember learning “social studies” which had something to do with studying different cultures, but I couldn’t tell you anything about them now.  Of the thousands of hours I spent in the classroom, very little of it was practical and most was forgotten before I even got out for summer vacation.

What I needed to learn in kindergarten was how to make friends.  What I learned instead was to sit down, shut up, and attend to my work or get punished.  Those rules of sitting down and shutting up were emphasized again and again throughout my education.  Sitting down and shutting up made it easier for the teachers to teach us things we would never need to know.  I must say, though, that learning English and mathematics were essential skills that I continue to benefit from.

I learned one thing in history class that I still remember, “Those who don’t learn from the past are destined to repeat it.”  Strangely, though, the teacher never taught us how to learn from the past.  Simply learning things about the past doesn’t help us to change our ways.  We have proven that as a society and as individuals.  If there is one thing that people can be counted on doing, it is repeating the mistakes of the past.

Sadly, if people were graded on the quality of their relationships, most people would receive no better than a “C” and many would have failing grades.  Because people are expected to naturally have these skills, they feel poorly about themselves and give up on having quality relationships.

As a relationship coach, it is part of my responsibility to educate people to know that making and keeping quality relationships requires skills not taught in our culture.  They are not valued by the educational system and most of our parents didn’t know them and so couldn’t teach us.  Many people who could cook a gourmet meal or repair a car engine couldn’t tell you the first thing about how to stop arguing with your spouse.

Isn’t it about time to admit that you need better relationship skills? I had to learn them and they have made all the difference in my life.  If you need a relationship coach, I would be happy to help you to learn them, too.  Learn about my introductory relationship coaching package.