Women, why does he (an acquaintance, a romance interest, a boyfriend, a husband) want to talk to you and be with you?
To use you (e.g., for sex, as a backup in case another relationship doesn’t work out, financially, etc.)
Because he is lonely and longs for romance and intimacy
Because you remind him of other women who took care of him (e.g., his mother)
Because you are exciting
Because he wants to take care of you
Because he is in love with you
Because he feels pressured to do so (e.g., parents, society’s demands, etc.)
Because he wants a life partner
Because he admires you (i.e. your skills, talent, etc.)
Because you admire him
Because you provide what other women can not or will not
Because men are attracted to a variety of things, it is not hard to get a man. But to find a man with good relationship potential means that he must be right for you AND you must be right for him. If your act is not together, you are not going to attract men who do have their act together (not for a long term relationship, at least).
The kind of man you attract (and repel) also has a lot to do with the kind of “go signals” that you send. If you are consistently being used, it is not because all men are this way, but because you are attracting this kind of men.
With your relationship coach, identify some ways that you can better present yourself to attract the kind of man you desire. Also, list some of the characteristics that will help you to identify such a man.
Posted: October 31st, 2008 under Help for Singles, Life Coach, Relationship, Relationship Coaching.
Tags: dating, men, what men want