Hurting you hurts him too. Learn to help the both of you by ending the abuse without ending the relationship. If your husband, wife, or significant other is emotionally abusing you, you are not to blame No matter what an abused person has done, abuse always starts in the mind of the person doing…
(Click Here for Part I) How to get his respect and his love John starts shouting almost before he closes the front door. Whatever he’s got to say, has been building all day. As he shouts, red faced, squint eyed, scowling at his wife Carol, she says nothing. John even pauses at times to…
Some key dating ingredients that will help to keep your marriage strong and close. Did you know that improving your dating life can improve your marriage? This is true even if you have been together for many years. Dates remove us from our everyday surroundings so that we can focus on our spouse longer,…
Four steps to calm down your husband or wife STEP ONE. Get your thinking straight. Don’t be surprised or upset by your spouse’s reaction. Get your thinking straight. Don’t blame your spouse for being upset. Remind yourself that he or she doesn’t want to be upset–nobody likes being upset. He or she would much…
See how one woman used the correct actions, at the correct time, to save her marriage. Robin was in her mid-30s and had been married for seven years when she contacted me for help. She was married to a difficult man and she knew it. That’s the one thing she didn’t have any doubts about. …
Shifting from blame to action to overcome neediness (examples from relationship coaching). To improve any situation, including neediness, we must see what we can do to improve it (even when someone else is causing the problem). We must go beyond gut reactions to something that can bring about change. Here is an example identification of a…
Building your marriage by improving the way you say things Have you programmed your spouse to expect a negative message from you? How long does it take before your spouse has an emotional reaction to what you are saying? If you said no time at all, you are correct. Our spouses emotionally respond to…
No one likes problems, but handled correctly, they create an opportunity for a closer marriage Breaking the silence You love your spouse, but your relationship has serious problems. How can you talk to your spouse about it without making things worse? Some people are so afraid of upsetting their spouse that they suffer for…
If sharing your thinking with your spouse just gets a defensive reaction or distance, try this approach. Why saying, “I disagree” is not a good way to disagree. “I disagree,” is not a good way to respond to anyone. The message may be accurate, but the packaging is poor. It closes down communication…
Starting today, you can naturally start to attract more people and opportunities into your life with positive thinking. Are you sending out the right messages? As far as people go, like attracts like. Being positive will attract other positive people. It will also create more opportunities in your life, because positive people are…